Moving On.....

No, this isn't "50 Shades" stuff, this was potentially me last week....

No, this isn't "50 Shades" stuff, this was potentially me last week....

Now It's Time To Move On....

Making mistakes is human, how we handle them is what makes us grow.

Another confession - very embarrassing confession, and one that I find so emotional for me.  I picked up my daughter from her school in rural Virginia to bring her to PA to get her temporary drivers permit last weekend.  We were having such a great time talking and catching up right after I picked her up, that when I came off of a 55 mph section road, I looked down and noticed that I was flying down the hill into a town really fast.  I commented to Dani that I was going fast and slowed down.  Two minutes laster I saw the flashing lights.

Now, I haven't had a ticket for about 20 years. Back then, I would have cried (legitimately), and tried to get out of it.  This time, I knew I was flying and Dani and I were having such a good time, that I just told the officer "yep, I know why I was pulled over".  So, he gave me a ticket and told me I was lucky that he didn't write me up for a misdemeanor, Reckless Endangerment, since I was going 22 miles over the speed limit (57 / 35)!  Yikes!  

So, feeling embarrassed in front of my daughter, I made it a teaching experience and we moved on, still chatting happily and enjoying each other's company.

I pretty much pushed the incident to the back of my brain until I called Galax, VA Police Department to see how much I would need to send them for the ticket.  
$193.00.  And since I was pleading GUILTY, I would get 6 points on my license for 5 years.

Guilty.....Guilty.....Guilty....  

Wow, I had no idea how that word would affect me.  I am GUILTY of breaking the law.  My heart is racing as I type that now!  

I don't like this feeling of being guilty.  It is not who I feel I am.  But, how many times do I go over the speed limit...on the highway, or even on the streets I travel every day?  Weekly?  Daily?  Does the fact that I got caught make it any worse?

So, I am owning to that fact that I sometimes speed.  Now, am I going to let it ruin my day if i catch myself going a bit over the speed limit?  No, I am going to adjust and move on.  

"Caught red-handed" by Psychopoesie - Own work. Licensed under CC BY 3.0 via Wikimedia Commons - 

"Caught red-handed" by Psychopoesie - Own work. Licensed under CC BY 3.0 via Wikimedia Commons - 

This brings me to other things I feel "guilty" about.  Is guilt really the feeling?  Is it embarrassment?  Is it shame?  Do we judge ourselves too harshly for mishaps and open ourselves up to those feelings?  If we get caught at something, does that now make us BAD?  Do we then hide under the radar when doing something "bad",  then use the guilt to do some type of "punishment" on ourselves, like not getting close to loved ones, keeping extra weight, playing small?   Is there a way to acknowledge whatever the feeling is, make a bit of an adjustment, and.... MOVE ON?  

What can you do this week to let some of that stuff go?  And then....MOVE ON?  Let me know!

ps - without feeling guilty -  take a look at these restaurant offerings for 2,000 calories... !!  
http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2014/12/22/upshot/what-2000-calories-looks-like.html?_r=0&abt=0002&abg=1

What do you think?  Did you know?  Will this information change how you order at these chains? Or maybe inspire you to eat at home more?  Let me know!